Firt Date - part 2
Firt Date – part 2

I don’t need to tell you that every first date you go on is a potential opportunity to meet the love of your life, do I? I mean, the person you’re out with could be the one you end up spending the rest of your life with and it all depends on how well this first date goes.

LOL! Things got a bit tense there for a second. Relax. You’ve got him interested enough to ask you out on a date, so that hurdle’s already cleared. All you have to do now is dazzle your date and awe him with your gracefulness and your womanly traits, so much so that he falls for you. To do that, you’re going to need to keep a couple of things in mind.

I know feminism is all the new rage right now, but, if you’re one of the many who have hopped on this wagon, then you’re going to have to put that away for a bit. Men like to feel manly, so if you want to impress a guy you’re interested in, let him. The world is not going to end if you sit back and let him pamper you. If you need something at the table, tell him about it so he can speak to a waiter and get it for you. Yes, you can do it yourself but you want him to believe you need him.

A lot of people underestimate the effect the way they smell has on a first date. Use your perfume liberally over your pulse joints – the neck, your cleavage, your palms and wrist, and the back of your neck – but don’t break the bottle in your bathtub and soak in it. You don’t want the smell to be too overpowering. You could also try spraying a mist of perfume in the air and walking under it so you get some of it in your hair as well. This way, your date will get a whiff of your intoxicating smell every time you lean in to whisper something or walk by him. By the end of the night, it’s all he’ll be able to think about.

Your hands are one of the little details that make an impression on the first date. Make sure your hands are soft when you go out on a date, and the guy will subconsciously reach out to hold them repeatedly. To achieve this effect, use moisturizers and hand creams often before your date.

Don’t just go on and on endlessly about yourself; ask him questions too. You’re on a date not an interview. Ask him about his interests and work, or to elaborate on something he might have mentioned earlier. This way, he knows you’re not self-centered and care about his interests as well and he’ll love it. He’ll love it even more if you happen to be into the same things he is.

No one like girls who complain too much. Even if it turns out he picked a lousy venue, or something you don’t like happens, there’s really no need to complain or whine about it. I mean, this guy picked the venue so he could spend time with you. Why would he go out of his way to ruin it intentionally? A guy would be much happier with a girl who’s more accommodating and tolerant. If you’re complaining on the first date, you’ll most likely be nagging him through the relationship, should he choose to enter one with you. No one wants that.

Genuine smiles and laughter inspire a guy when he’s out with a girl. It not only makes him feel funny, it makes him relax around you. Even though he isn’t really all that funny, just smile and try to have a good time.

Of course we all know you have to look your best on a date, but I have to stress how important it is you dress for the occasion. Don’t wear something you will be uncomfortable in later on during the date. Nothing is more annoying than a girl who wears something she isn’t comfortable in and then ends up inconveniencing everyone around her. Also, where clothing is concerned, black and red are awesome choices to bring out your sexuality, but, if you want your date to see a more feminine side, then you should go with pastels and soft fabrics.

Go easy on him if he fumbles during the date. He’s probably just as nervous as you are and is working just as hard to impress you. Complimenting him from time to time will help calm his nerves. However, you want to be careful not to be so easy on him you look like a pushover.

You may be high maintenance, but you don’t need to flaunt that on the first date. Don’t make the guy splurge too much or you will risk scaring him off. Think about what you want to order and how much of a dent it will make in his pocket before you do it. Ordering the most expensive things on the menu really doesn’t speak well of your character.

It’s easy to get carried away in the middle of an exciting conversation, but avoid going into details unless the guy you’re with seems overly interested in it. Some questions are just to keep the conversation going, so only elaborate if he asks. In the same vein, monosyllabic answers are also a terrible idea.

The way the girl says goodbye to the guy at the end of the first date can make all the difference in the way the guy remembers that night. If you think you’re ready to kiss him after the first date, hug him and as you’re leaving his arms, bring your face close to his and wait for him to make the move. On the other hand, if you don’t want to kiss him yet, turn your face to the side and give him a chance to kiss your cheek.

After saying goodnight, all that’s left to do is wait and hope for the call inviting you out to a second date. Of course, a charming young lass like you has nothing to worry about.Just be yourself, and you’ll soon be enjoying your happily ever after. Even if a few of the first dates you go on turn out to be a complete and utter disaster.

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