How to pick up guys
How to pick up guys

Hello, Ladies. Welcome to the 21st century. In addition to amazing new technological advancements we can also be thankful that we no longer have to sit around, pouting and making ridiculous faces, hoping that the cute guy across the room will pick up his liver and say “hi”. No, we are grabbing life by the horns, identifying what we want, and going for it!

While it’s great that females are a lot more ballsy now-a-days, we still want to be proper and avoid coming across as ratchet so it’s important to pick up the guy you’re interested in “the right way”.

The first thing you want to do is pick a good spot. Like with the guys, you don’t necessarily have to wait until you’re going to the bar or a party to meet a guy. There are guys everywhere the park, supermarkets, library – a friend of mine once told me he met his fiancé for the first time when she walked up to him and asked if he could help her cross the road.  It’s best if you pick somewhere you’re extremely comfortable so, you’re in your element and have home court advantage.

So, you’re at your spot and you spot a guy you think you’d have an awesome time with. First thing you need to do is make eye contact. Let him catch you staring and then smile and look away. Ensure your body language says you are approachable. A good way to do this to lean on something, point your feet at the person you want to approach, and avoid crossing your arms or your legs.

Walk up to him and start a conversation. I know the thought of talking to a stranger, who happens to be incredibly good looking, may not be very well welcomed, but a conversation is a valuable screening tool. Better to talk to him now and find out if there’s anything that will ruin the deal than find out later.

Now, one of two things can happen at this point. If you try to start a convo and he’s just staring at you like you have three heads or something, gracefully excuse yourself. You don’t want him to think you’re desperate or some sort of man hunter. On the other hand, if your conversation is going great, then now’s the time to get his number. In the middle of your talk, say something along the lines of “You’re pretty funny/interesting. I’d like to have this conversation again some other time. Mind if I call you?”


Try telling the guy he looks a lot like a cousin/friend/whatever and ask if you can take a picture with him, because you’ve got to show that person. After taking a picture with him, ask him if he’s on Facebook, so that you can link with him. Once you have his profile, you have a connection!

If you CAN’T, for whatever reason, start up a conversation, the direct method might be best for you. What you are going to do is skip through the introductions and all that and just ask for his number. To do this, you will need a pick-up line. Yes, cheesy. I know but if you’re smiling and look attractive, the guy might find them endearing. Just go with something simple like “That is a cute shirt. Mind if I have your number?” There is no guarantee that this will work, but it’s worth a shot innit?


You could slip him your contact info right before you leave and just walk away. This way, he doesn’t get to turn you down face-to-face, and you can avoid an uncomfortable conversation. However, it might be wiser to give your email address as opposed to your phone number just in case he turns out to be some sort of creep.

If dude’s been checking you out, simply go up to him and ask, when he plans to take you out or say something like, “Here’s my number, in case you want to go out sometime”. Don’t want to approach him directly, give a note to the waiter and ask him to deliver it right after you leave.

Ladies, don’t take it personally if he doesn’t get in touch with you after the meeting, or after you slip him a note with your details. It’s important to consider that he might be in a relationship, or interested in another girl. Or maybe getting chatted up by a chic makes him feel insecure (not all guys are into it). It is also possible that he just isn’t into you, but who cares? There are tons of fish in the sea!

Also, there are quite a number of primitive men out there who think you’re easy just because you were the one who picked them up.  Be sure to draw the line when he starts to make obscene comments/demands. You are in total and absolute control of the situation, as well as your mind and body, and it’s necessary for him to be aware of this.

One last thing: Your chances of landing a hot dude drop considerably if you’re out “hunting” with a group of more than two. Especially if the people you’re out with are the types who giggle recklessly while you’re trying to do your thing. Choose your pack wisely or hunt alone. You don’t see a leopard tracking down a zebra while her girlfriends are behind the bushes shouting “You go, girl!”

That said, I believe you are ready. Happy hunting

By Haba Naija Contributor

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