It would be nice for all of the little lessons that we ever needed to know while we were on our life journey would come to us as gentle little whispers in our ears. Unfortunately, most of the lessons that are learned in life come by way of heartbreaks, setbacks, failures, and disappointments.
There have been studies conducted on divorced women, and they were asked about the things they wish they would have known before they ever got married. Their answers can help you reevaluate certain areas of your life before tying the knot.
Realize the Things That You Value in Life and Honor Them
The key things that you value in life are the things that are important to you. What do you want out of life? Do you want a career? Do you want a family? Where do you want to be spiritually? Your values should be something that you are able to share with your mate with ease. They should also share similar values because that is what determines how compatible you are, and how successful your marriage will be.
Handle Problems Head On
This is the reason why a lot of relationships and marriages fail. Do not sweep problems under the rug, or ignore them. Learn how to handle disagreements the healthy way. It is normal for couples to disagree and fight, it only becomes unhealthy if you do not resolve the issue.
It Will Not Hurt You to Apologize
No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes the only way a conflict is handled properly is for someone to admit they were wrong. If you are the guilty party, admit you were at fault and say that you are sorry. Do not procrastinate, or try to shift the blame to your significant other.
Get Rid of the Baggage
Chances are you had some rough patches in your life. Curve balls have been thrown at you from all angles. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to deal with the pain from your unresolved issues. It is not fair for your partner to have to deal with the emotional baggage you are carrying around. When you are dealing with issues in your past that means you are not totally living in the present moment. Enjoy the relationship you are in by closing out the painful chapters of your life.
Do Not Let Jealously Rear Its Ugly Head
Jealously is a dangerous and toxic feeling that should never be in a relationship. It can often make people do and say things that they later regret. Never allow it to overtake your romantic relationships.
Money Does Matter
Money issues are the major reasons why some relationships do not last. If financial issues are causing a problem in your relationship, you should seek the advice of a counselor, especially if marriage is in your future.
Do Not Stay in a Rut
Relationships can become stagnant. Look for new ways to keep the romance fresh and alive. Try new adventures, or go on a vacation. It is important to rekindle the spark that made the two of you fall for each other in the first place.